Thursday, January 7, 2010

Jie Mi: husband and wife having an affair seven great puzzles

It is undeniable that people want access to Yan Yu psychological indeed very common. Even some very traditional men and women, sometimes have to carry out the heart with some kind of battle the temptation.





Puzzle 1: In modern society, having an affair is clearly more

Mystery: a survey from the United States got bogged down in the family affairs of all households accounted for only 15% of the total number of ~ 20%. Clearly, the affair phenomenon is not as serious as imagined. Hold this view of people (mostly men) simply want to justify their actions. Women will also become the victims of this view, they would be blind to believe that men have a proclivity philandering become suspicious of her husband to prevent excessive, thus undermining the mutual trust. The trust is the cornerstone of a happy marriage.



It is undeniable that people want access to Yan Yu psychological indeed very common. Even some very traditional men and women, sometimes have to carry out the heart with some kind of battle the temptation. But the affair behavior is completely avoidable, and the key is self-control. To exercise restraint and possible third party to exchanges, while striving to enhance cooperation with the intimate relationship between spouses.



Puzzle 2: Suspected spouse having an affair, it is best not to speak out

Mystery: This simmer in mind that it will not bring good results. In fact, the feeling has always been harmonious couples, if one has an affair, not long, the other will be felt on one side then the other side any clues would be the spirit of anxiety.



Therefore, one may be deceived, it should be admitted his misgivings, but not a question, blame, Root of the Matter to the bottom, but calmly recount. For example you can talk about your dream, let the other know your concerns. Of course, maybe does not exist then the same thing, but this will reveal a frank exchange of a number of other issues. Such as the recent decidedly troubled her husband have lost their "sex" fun, and was originally the work of trouble. In modern society, the pressure to bear by both spouses jointly, which was of greater significance.



Even if your doubts are confirmed frankly also valuable. Because things are clearly on the table, you are no longer kept in the dark, you can make adjustments to face the reality. Want to know, whether the wife or husband, the worst thing is knowing that the other had an affair and not into words, laissez-faire attitude, which will lead to marriage deformity and degeneration.



Puzzle 3: an affair, is a dull marriage doping

Mystery: Yes, with his favorite person secret extramarital dating is happy, and it is an affair the original cause. You will recall the feeling in love and revel in the beautiful fantasy while ignoring the other's shortcomings. Can not happen in six months, you will face a real world, boring, dull, non-singular.

The monotony of married life can be remedied. To change the established pattern, to find common sense of fun, I believe your marriage will be nothing new recycling miracle.



Puzzle 4: If a spouse having an affair, you may root cause is that you

Mystery: I believe that the self-pity of the people, and a minority, especially the wives. The unfaithful spouse will be shirking its responsibility to find an excuse, often exaggerated. But the innocent party to the other party to Tam responsibility, apparently back grounds. In any case, when your spouse having an affair, only to prove that he or she willing to do so, reprove you just to make more peace of mind an affair.



Puzzle 5: There is an affair, they show that he (she) is no longer love you

Mystery: the lack of feelings of husband and wife are very prone to having an affair, but an affair does not necessarily indicate that he (she) "does not love you." Obsessive lover, but still love his wife or husband of the phenomenon are common. You can see, there is an affair of men and women, including often the perpetrators of such illnesses, most of whom are reluctant to divorce. Perhaps he (she), the affair is that it can escape only Dongrenzhichu the prosaic marital life.



Importantly, not to the spouse at fault to re-declare your love to the time to make disdain, irony and the sarcastic response, because it is very likely love from the heart, we should put it as a fresh start .



  Puzzle 6: If you find a spouse having an affair, it should be divorced

Mystery: life, alive, in the eyes can not tolerate a little sand mentality is not wise, Moreover, the divorce will be even more difficult to bring a lot of new problems, the majority of injuries due to an affair the marriage is worth and can be saved. At the same time, due to an affair triggered by exposure to the shock, will be to motivate both sides to re-examine each other, good to sit down and listen to each other's inner voice. Many people would for him (her) conduct their previous guilt, self-examination.



Puzzle 7: There is an affair of a successful marriage do?

Mystery: Yes. "If the husband and wife have not thought of betraying each other, then the marriage is a happy marriage; of betrayal if one did not cast doubt on the other side, then this is a successful marriage; if betrayal to be understanding, then this is a successful marriage ; if the betrayal of acts can not be condoned, then this is not a successful marriage; if betrayal is to find comfort, then this is a form of marriage; if betrayal is simply not to seek comfort, then this is a failed marriage. "

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