Easy to make you self-destruct in 12 kinds of psychological traps

I am how could this be?" "How do I always sabotage his own good?" "Why am I still do not get what I want?" The voices of those suffering from all walks of life self-destructive future of people's minds. To prevent or overcome self-destructive behavior, there is a barrier to cross, that is, you must first be able to detect heart to promote your drive to self-defeating. To consider carefully to see if they have not listed below are sufficient to enable the party indulging in self-destructive spiral of 12 can not extricate themselves the most common psychological traps.
　　1, find lost the character of
Some people's character naturally tend to self-defeating. They repeatedly trapped in the oppressed, was desperate attack, but also frustrated that the eyes are just being there is an escape route, export, they still turn a blind eye and refused to use. Even if the work is competent, they also repeatedly failed.
　　2, narcissistic,
Self-important, too conceited, too self-depending on the person, usually a door into the walls of self-destruction. Narcissistic, habitual need someone constantly praise, love, the denial is certainly in order to allow each other like their own, often regardless of indiscriminate promised to all the requirements of others.
　　3, emotional, naive
To childish behavior caused by other people's attention, in the workplace clown to attract the attention of others, and so difficult to get the respect of others is indeed a blow to their business approach.
　　4, seeking lost cognitive
Lack of confidence, is zoned for limited, and believe that they will fail, I had an erroneous expectations, but their failure to create a mood, the reason Qiyou undefeated?
　　5, false expectations of
Zhitaicaishu, for their talents and potential can not make sensible estimates of their own ambitious, very unrealistic life goals. Unrealistic wishful thinking, it will only self-defeating.
　　6, low self-esteem too heavy
A serious inferiority complex in self-esteem cause trouble, and sometimes will make a fantastic move to prove his worth result, they are self-defeating. Inferiority complex psychological make them think they innate or less than the day after disorders, they can not compete with others.
　　7, revenge-Qiang
Revenge powerful, easy swayed by personal feelings, often full of Yuannu mind, once the acute Huogong heart, often seeking only to vent their emotions and not to listen to persuade, not calmly face of setbacks, the result of loss of popularity, getting into trouble.
　　8, to seek attention
Like the limelight, only to become the focus of attention of others in order to withstand the hit of the loneliness, depression, anxiety and other bad feelings, but the limelight is often counter-productive way, do not hesitate to leave to others jokes, the reactions of others frown fame or fortune, like the talk, an exhibition of oneself, selfishness look forward to other people's praise.
　　9, the pursuit of stimulation
Some people love easy road, only to quickly turn the pace of life, confused and disoriented, the only happiness. However, people often ignore the stimulus and pursue the right to judge. The best such a person can learn to control their passion to find fun and will minimize opportunities for self-destruction, so their need to stimulate the paralysis of his Jie Jie, but also live happily.
　　10, deceive the complex
Some people think that their talents not as good as people imagine, with a total worry that one day the truth will be exposed to guilt deep inside, so in order to find their destruction to punish its own, such as those who do may be in charge of a sudden to make a crazy decided to prove that he did not qualified to be in charge.
　　11, assertiveness suspicious
Narrow-minded, paranoid all day, always speculate about other people's motives behind the calculations regardless of whether your colleague is bound to reduce the work of energy, affect your relationships, leading to people around the alienation, resentment, and cold-shouldered. The paranoid behavior of a self-played and ultimately predictions come true.
　　12, mid-life crisis
Felt that mid-life crisis who are not satisfied with the cause of work that there is no immediate challenge is worth Nuliyifu become lifeless, moody, pessimistic, and thus make a self-destructive move